connectEDspace - support for young people

Young people can face all sorts of pressures – including problems at school, with friends or at home.
connectEDspace is a website by Relationships Australia Victoria (RAV), dedicated to young people to help provide all the information they need to deal with the stuff they go through each day.

Aboriginal Family and Relationship Support


RAV provides support to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander families and individuals to help strengthen family relationships.

Counselling provides an opportunity to talk with a professionally trained person to discuss couple issues, conflicts with friends, relationship breakdown, parenting, domestic violence, anxiety, depression, grief, sexual problems, childhood sexual abuse, stress and work related tensions and disputes.

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What is a men's behaviour change program?

A men’s behaviour change program (MBCP) is a program for men wanting to end their use of controlling and abusive behaviours (including violent incidents) and other problematic behaviour in their relationships.

The program is designed to help men to address hurting the people they love most, develop an improved sense of self, and in the process become better partners and fathers.

What is family violence?

Family violence, or domestic violence, is a pattern of behaviour where one person tries to dominate and control the other. It can include a range of behaviours, including:

  • physical abuse (hitting, punching, using weapons to frighten, threatening to do harm, harming pets)
  • verbal abuse (harassing, threatening, saying things to frighten, calling insulting names)
  • sexual abuse (forcing someone to have sex when they don’t want to, or engage in behaviours they are not comfortable with)
  • social abuse (controlling who family members socialise and/or associate with)
  • financial abuse (controlling access to money)
  • emotional abuse (withdrawing support, ‘silent treatment’, expressing extreme jealousy)
  • stalking (spying on or following family members including through the use of electronic means)
  • spiritual abuse (controlling the religious beliefs and/or cultural practices of family members).

If you’re not sure whether what’s happening in your family is family violence, you can call us to arrange an assessment, talk about what’s been happening and find out more about how we can help.

More information on each type of abuse is available here.

Is it time for change?

In your relationship with your partner or former partner:

  • Have you often criticised, called them names, put them down in front of others or said things to frighten them?
  • Have you hit, punched, slapped, pushed or shoved them, or pulled their hair?
  • Have you made threats of physical violence, such as threatening to throw something, use a weapon or hit them, or threatened a pet?
  • Have you pressured or forced them to have sex when they didn’t want to?
  • Have you been extremely jealous such as unfairly accusing them of paying too much attention to another person?
  • Have you controlled your shared finances so they are dependent on you or prevented them from using money for their own purposes?
  • Have you not let them do something they wanted to do, such as meeting up with friends or working?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then it’s time for change.

If you’re ready to take responsibility for the way you’ve been acting, an MBCP can help show you how to relate to your family in healthy and positive ways.

"I felt like everything was getting out of control - including me. Now I realise that I have choices about how I respond to things."

Positive steps

The first steps to ending family violence are to:

  • acknowledge that it’s happening in your relationship
  • take ownership of your journey towards change
  • learn tools to manage your emotions and choices in healthier ways - rather than blaming others or making excuses for your behaviour.

Getting started

To get started, call your nearest centre to make a time to attend an information session.

At the information session, you will receive information about the program and be able to determine whether it’s right for you.

You can then arrange an assessment session, where you’ll meet privately with a facilitator to talk about what has been happening in your family and relationships, and begin to identify goals related to behaviours you want to change.

Family safety is an important aspect of the program, so our staff will also make contact with your family members to offer them support and assistance they might need. We do this because people exposed to family violence need support.

Group program

Groups run for 20 weeks. New groups start throughout the year. Please contact your nearest centre for upcoming dates.

Cost

RAV is a not-for-profit community organisation and our services are only partially government funded, so fees are normally charged. However, we try to make our services as affordable as possible. Please contact us for more information about the fees for men’s behaviour change programs.

For crisis support

If you are in immediate danger, call Victoria Police on 000. For women's crisis support, call safe steps on 1800 015 188 or 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732. For men’s telephone and online support, call the Men’s Referral Service on 1300 766 491.